Quit Right Before it Gets Hard

The best time to quit is when it gets hard and the challenges become clear. In fact, what you should do is work at something just long enough to start to learn the processes inside your workplace, are able to ascertain most of the idiosyncrasies of your team, become aware of your environment and have crystallized for yourself what real challenges lay ahead. It is at this time when you have a sober assessment of the true hurdles that lay ahead and come to realize that the hard work is what comes next that you should hand in your resignation.

Of course this is sarcasm.

But it is accurate none the less.

Some of the very best advice I got in my 20′s (not long after graduating college and in my first full-time job) was to learn through perseverance and try my best to lead and navigate inside of the workplace challenges. Other opportunities were available at the time, and who knows, maybe some of the them would have been better, but I do know that I learned irreplaceable skills and life lessons be enduring tough times in the leadership setting in which I had signed up for. I learned things that I am certain that you can never learn by quitting.

Accepting Reality: Charles the Simple

… I will to my Lord, be true and faithful, and love all which he loves and shun all which he shuns, according to the laws of God and the order of the world. Nor will I ever with will or action, through word or deed, do anything which is unpleasing to him, on condition that he will hold to me as I shall deserve it, and that he will perform everything as it was in our agreement when I submitted myself to him and chose his will.

-Anglo Saxon Loyalty Oath, mid-10th Century

Charles III, or Charles the Simple, as he is called, was King of France in the early 10th Century.  His title of “Simple” comes from the belief of most of his contemporaries that he was a weak and insignificant King.  And while as King he did wield little real power or authority, he did manage to do something as King that left his family, his nation, and Western Civilization with a lasting legacy.  And it all came down to a desperate choice he made one year in the face of certain defeat.

By the summer of 911 Charles was in a battle for the very life of his Kingdom.  France, like the rest of Europe, had been under the terror of the Vikings.  Originating from Scandinavia, they would swoop in to raid and plunder towns, villages, and monasteries.  No ruler seemed to be able to stop or even hold them.  The “Norseman” as they were called had stronger weapons, faster ships, and in this case, were led by a vicious leader named Rollo who seemed to have no interest in peace.  The French had only Charles, a small army and no allies.

That’s when Charles came up with an idea.  He knew that he couldn’t fend off Rollo with his army & that he didn’t have enough cash to buy him off.  So Charles accepted that reality and made Rollo an offer, “come join me”.

Later that year, Charles and Rollo signed the Treaty of Sainte-Clair-sur-Epte.  Under the terms of the treaty, Rollo was given land in northern France & a title of Nobility, while Charles gained an ally and defender against future Viking invaders.  At the time it probably seemed crazy for Charles to give up land to a Viking, But Charles made a bet that Rollo might start to enjoy life as a noble, with better food, steady income, and the legitimacy of a title.  And he did.

Rollo and his descendents began to give up their Viking ways.  Eventually the Norsemen became the Northmen who then became the Normans.  Over the next 300 years the Normans became more and more European by becoming Christians, building towns, schools, and churches, and turned their land into one of the most prosperous regions in the Middle Ages.  Normans became some of the most cultured and productive people in France.  The land given to the Normans still bears the name, Normandy, a French province.

And for Charles, it ended up saving his family.  Not long after the treaty was signed, Duke Randolph of Burgundy rebelled, took the throne, and sent Charles to prison where he died in 929.  Charles’ wife Odgiva and son Louis were given refuge by the Normans.  In 936, Randolph was deposed and Louis was given the throne, all with the support and backing of the Normans.  Louis reigned as King Louis IV and with Norman support, gave France 19 years of stability and safety.

You see, sometimes leaders find themselves in very difficult circumstances where total “victory” just isn’t an option.  When Charles found himself there, he did what he had to do: accept the reality that the Vikings were not going away.  Once he did, he was able to effectively deal with Rollo and offer him a chance to be a part of France.  At the time it probably seemed crazy, but it was really all he could do.  So he did it.  And in the long run, it saved France from total annihilation, gave his son a much needed ally, and gave the world the Normans.

So as a leader, ask yourself a question.  What realities or “Vikings” do you need to accept and deal with if you’re going to move forward?  It may not be easy, but it may be the only thing you can do.

I am In a Hurry

Constantly on the move, I find myself hopping from one project to the next. There is always something rattling around in my mind that is nagging me of the ‘undone’. Emails are stacking up. Messages, texts, twitter, facebook. Who is it that is on the lunch schedule for today? What is my next appointment after that? And tonight, what about tonight? I can’t remember my schedule with out going back to my calendar, often. I am looking forward to later. Get the kids in bed, grab a cold beer, plop down on the couch and turn off my mind by turning on a game.

I do this to myself and, just possibly, you are like me more than you realize. Art, enjoyment, life, breath, peace, joy… they are absent from the days packed too crazy full. Adrenaline can be had without chaos. ‘NO’ is an alternative. Patience is an achievable discipline, so is maintaining a reasonable pace. The challenge is to learn how to filter out the useless garbage, the things that don’t really matter or make your life, work or family better. TV? The radio noise? The facebook time? The sports league? The unimportant busy work that is filling your best periods of the day?

Slow down to the pace where you can sense the moment. Speed up to the pace where you know for sure that you are alive.

Standing Out Pays

Be remarkable at one thing – it is far better than being very good at a lot of things. I only wish I knew this when I was 13 or even when I was 23. This blog post from Tim Ferris is worth the 5 minutes of reading — it will mess with you and challenge you for the rest of the week! If you are on the front side of your career choice and advanced education decisions this could be some of the best advice that you every get.

Stay Home / fail

Go nowhere. Dabble in no other realms, kingdoms or provinces. Seek the protection under the wing of your momma and the comfort of what you already know. Stay home! This is a sure fire way to stunt your growth as a leader. Sure, it’s rewarding (and possibly essential) to have a home base where you can rejuvenate, develop, connect with ‘easy friends’ and launch out from, but don’t stop there. Don’t get mired down in the usual stuff. Throw yourself out into new environments, adventures and situations. Take a trip. Volunteer on new projects. Seek out connections in cities beyond your current reach. Move to a next level challenge. Take some risks.

If Lebron James stays in Cleveland I will be far less interested in him as a leader. Sure, he may win championships there, but he will have passed up the opportunity to do it on the world’s largest stage. And in the process, he will have shied from the greater challenges and the larger exposure that made him great as a young guy when he skipped college and went right into the NBA.

* A short series of failures you can make as a young leader.

Lay It Down

Seth Godin call’s it the Dip. Others call it “knowing when to lay down your bet”. However, it shouldn’t take just a losing proposition to stop doing something that is ‘good’ in pursuit of doing something that is great.

In meeting with a successful leader the other day, I was challenged to not always think in terms of “life long time lines”. What if projects had shorter life spans? What if we had clear, short-term, small budget, in-n-out approaches to some of our objectives? What if new products, established teams, marketing budgets, fund-raising efforts, et-al didn’t always go on forever?

In WWII the U.S. Marines spent over a year preparing to take just one key island – Iwo Jima. It was a hotly contested conflict with thousands of lives laid at the alter of freedom, but they knew when and what victory looked like and it wasn’t about being in the marines forever or engaged in war in perpetuity.

The challenge before us for the greatest gains does not always have to include “doing this forever”. Don’t be afraid to cancel things that aren’t meeting you goals or your values or your stated outcomes. Just because you started something does not mean that you should always finish. See more of what you do as “experimental” and don’t get down when it doesn’t work out. Just try something else.