When is Quitting an Option?

With every endurance race that I have participated in there has always come a point where I feel like quitting. In my first triathlon it was in the first 5 minutes of the swim. In fact, in all the triathlons I have competed in it is always during the swim that I want to quite… it must be something to do with the early morning anxiety and getting kicked in the face while trying to breath and not suck down water.

Sunday I completed my first marathon with a finishing time of 3:33:04; the pace was 8:07min per mile. The morning started out in the pitch black with the rain pouring in downtown Portland. I felt like quitting before I began… seriously, who really wants to run in the pouring rain? I felt like quitting when my legs began to hurt at mile 3. I felt like quitting again at mile 5 when I was already breathing heavy and was certain I couldn’t keep my goal pace up for 21 more miles. When the marathon route diverged from the half-marathon route it was tempting to go the shorter distance. But, the most challenging moment came at 12.5 miles. It was a slight downhill section, I was cruising nicely along and taking a sip of a carb-loaded sports drink when I hit a unapparent dip in the road and tweaked my left knee. Just one misstep out of what must have been thousands. Pain shot through my knee and up my leg. I cringed and faltered. I knew I had to keep striding, for if I stopped I was almost certain I wouldn’t get going again, mentally or physically. For the next couple of miles I tried to run the pain out of my mind and out of my leg, but nothing nagged me more than the thought of quitting.

Quitting was never really an option. I had too much invested leading up to Sunday. Too many miles logged, too many early mornings, too many damn hot days in AZ, too many friends who knew I was running, too many fellow competitors & training partners who were awaiting results, too much was personally at stake. My kids were waiting to hear. And, even though it was my first marathon, they thought I had a chance to ‘win’, since “why else would you run dad?”

Sometimes, quitting isn’t an allowable option. When you make a heavy personal invest in something you believe in it becomes THE driving competitive factor. Nothing will stop you short of your goal… except maybe death, or some very uncontrollable circumstance. Have you experienced this? Are you personally invested that deep in a mission or goal? What keeps your from giving yourself to something so completely?

(Special thanks to my wife, Jerome Hawkins, and Dave Skogebo for their part in helping me accomplish this goal!)

Motivating Factors that Radically Change Your Life

Sunday is my first ever Marathon, 26.2 miles. The road to this place and time in my life wasn’t apparent to me until just six months ago. Two years ago this fall I wasn’t exercising regularly, wasn’t running and more often than not I could be found sitting comfortably behind a desk or behind a plate of food. I was 30lbs. heavier than I am today… some friends challenged me to take on a triathlon.

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In the last two years I have completed 3 olympic triathlons, 1 half-marathon, 1 half ironman and Sunday there is no way in hell that I am not finishing the full marathon.

Recently I have become transfixed by the concept of people taking on brand new and audacious goals. The kinds of goals and accomplishments that are way outside of a person’s current norms and realities. As I think more about this concept though the hardest thing for me to find is the common thread in the “why” or “why now”. As I talk with people who have achieved radical life change in one or more areas, more often times than not I find that the “why” is very complicated or complex or unique.

Here are a few factors that I have been able ascertain as motivators leading towards major lifestyle change:

  • major discontent with the current reality of life
  • sudden & unexpected life events (like losing a job or a loved one)
  • a challenge by a trusted friend
  • worthwhile incentives (money, prestige, love)
  • spiritual conviction

What do you think? What are the critical components that lead to major life overall in one or more areas?

Also, do you have a story of change that would be willing to share with others?

I am In a Hurry

Constantly on the move, I find myself hopping from one project to the next. There is always something rattling around in my mind that is nagging me of the ‘undone’. Emails are stacking up. Messages, texts, twitter, facebook. Who is it that is on the lunch schedule for today? What is my next appointment after that? And tonight, what about tonight? I can’t remember my schedule with out going back to my calendar, often. I am looking forward to later. Get the kids in bed, grab a cold beer, plop down on the couch and turn off my mind by turning on a game.

I do this to myself and, just possibly, you are like me more than you realize. Art, enjoyment, life, breath, peace, joy… they are absent from the days packed too crazy full. Adrenaline can be had without chaos. ‘NO’ is an alternative. Patience is an achievable discipline, so is maintaining a reasonable pace. The challenge is to learn how to filter out the useless garbage, the things that don’t really matter or make your life, work or family better. TV? The radio noise? The facebook time? The sports league? The unimportant busy work that is filling your best periods of the day?

Slow down to the pace where you can sense the moment. Speed up to the pace where you know for sure that you are alive.

Will You Show?

Starting a new pursuit is hard. Showing up the second week of the new pursuit is even harder. Doesn’t matter if it is training for a marathon, starting new disciplines in your finances or ramping up the concepts of a great new business opportunity, the second week is telling. Reality started to set in after the first seven days; the truest costs of the endeavor have just begin to start unveil themselves. Your commitment is now going to be challenged. You will have to wrestle with your own motivation. The ‘coolness’ of the idea will fade away. So, will you show? Or will you quit before you have even really begun and slouch back to the way things were before?

Drive and Desire

This morning I went to the high school track closest to where I live to put in some speed work as I train for my first marathon. Arriving very early, I found that the track was in complete lock down. Every gate closed, every opening shut, chained and padlocked. Not one soul running. It was frustrating and more so, it was very confusing… I began to ask myself questions like, “Why aren’t any of the school’s athletes out there? Why aren’t other area runners training? What is going on?” So I drove a few more miles down the road to check the next high school. The track was wide open, and sure enough it was packed. There were 50-100 student athletes getting in their before-school training. Area runners were doing speed work. The track was even humming along with a few house moms getting in some circuit training.

So who sets the tone of desire and drive for the organization? Is it the security guard who unlocks the gates? Is it head of the athletic department? Is it the conditioning coach? Or is it the athlete who gets up early to train? You know the answer… each of them do, but the driven athlete will always find a way to train, just like the driven leader will overcome obstacles to achieve his goals.

* It shouldn’t surprise you to know that the high school with the closed track only has a few state titles in it’s history. Conversely, the high school with the open track has many and is considered by some to be the premier academic AND athletic school in the entire state.

Want IT Yourself

It’s fun to help people.

I truly enjoy the process of coaching, sharing, challenging and stretching another person to bring out their best. No egos involved, just one human helping another human get ahead, do better, advance in your station in life. I love helping people realize their ‘IT’.

IT = your dreams, goals, ambitions, desires, future, and possibilities.
IT = making more money, having more freedom, enjoying life to it’s fullest, changing the world.
IT = what could be.
IT = the desire you have to be something more or better.

Here’s what drives me absolutely nuts though… I can not want ‘IT’ for you. You have to want IT more than anyone else does. If I want IT for you more than you want IT for you… you are on the wrong track and IT will never become reality.

Being Surly Guarantees Failure

Become known as the ass, the grump, the NO guy. Let pessimism run deep in your soul. Always have a ‘critical eye’. See things as obstacles rather than natural challenges. Laugh little. ‘High-five’, never! Treat life and work as a robot… no good times or parties allowed. Appreciate few things and articulate your thanks seldom. Be known for your resistance rather than your support, advice, aid, insights or wisdom. While you’re at it, also find a way to include bitching, complaints, grumbles, negativity, resistance. frowns and anxiety into your repertoire . Hold on fast to all wrongs and resentments and failures for a really long time. Most of all, be sure to dwell on the little things.

It’s easy to notice these traits in others, but it is quite hard to identify our own patterns of surliness. Correct your course. Be the optimistic leader that people cheerfully line up with.

Can’t Shake It

It is not the critic who counts. Not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause. Who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those timid souls who know neither victory or defeat.

- Theodore Roosevelt

Quit Early / fail

Your opportunities to quit early are many. At the first sign of resistance. During the middle of the first hard ascent. When the comfort of the bed seems better than the early morning of sweat and hard work. As pain creeps in. Facing an unforeseen and ridiculous obstacle. When you are no longer favored to win. Early on you will run smack into  … Anxiety … Loneliness … Pain … Ridicule … Easier Paths … Being behind … Comfort … Conformity … Fatigue.

Don’t trade in your dreams, visions, goals and ambitions by quitting shortly after you have begun. What you are experiencing in those early tests is common to every leader. The resistance sharpens the leader. The pressure shapes you and prepares you for better things yet to come.

Lance Armstrong is a 7 time Tour de France champion (the undisputed, single hardest cycling competition in the world) because he doesn’t quite when things get hard, when others get ahead or when he experiences a set back. He steels himself with resolve, grit, determination. ‘I am done’ is not in his vocabulary when the prize is still out in front. Yesterday he blew out a tire and saw his rivals gain minutes on him in the month long race that is separated by mere seconds in the end. His response:

“Our chances took a knock today,” Armstrong said. “I’m not going home, we’ll stay in the race and keep trying.”

* A short series of failures you can make as a young leader.

Amped Right Now

Several things inspire me regularly, but below is what is lighting my leadership fire right now. These things are better than a RedBull or morning Venti drip. What is it that fills your tank to keep your energy and your passion high? Do you know what it is that you need to do to bring out your best?

Young leaders. In the last week I have met with 4 different young leaders that have visions, dreams, ideas and plans that they are pursuing. I love to be a part of those conversations, adding what insights, tips, tricks and strategies I can to help see them succeed. Hopefully I will soon get to highlight some of them here. A few of them are from Launch501(c3).

Theodore Roosevelt. Historical biographies of great leaders flip my internal leadership switches to “on”. Some people read quotes for inspiration, others read scripture and others still read facebook. I read 300-600 pages manifests that posses keenness for detail and a knack for narrative that press into the depths of what made men and women of our past so extraordinary as leaders. They keep me up late working, inspire me to greater heights, activate my best ideas and challenge me to press beyond my current state of achievements.

Racing. Ever since undertaking my first endurance sport contest last year, I would say my addiction and competition levels have been steadily increasing. The thrill, the challenge, the race day adrenaline, the community and even the painful training and sacrifice have increased my personal energies and intensified my joy for life. My next venture of an unexpected acceptance to the half-ironman on July 18 in No. Cal. has me really going…

Abby Sunderland. I only wish I knew how to sail and had her courage.  She set out to be the youngest person ever to solo circumnavigate the globe @ age 16!  — Shit!, that is awesome. —   I don’t care that she failed and had to be rescued. She tried. She is capable. She is daring, brave, courageous… [fill in the blank]. Ignore the negative media about celebrity book deals, tv shows, pushy parents and product endorsements… that is our world now. Can’t wait till she tries again. Who wouldn’t hire this young, powerful leader?