You are who you are.
You are not who you say you are. You are not who you are pretending to be, nor are you yet who you want to be. You are not the sum total of all of all of your worst weaknesses nor are you the best of all of your greatest strengths. You might be a work in progress, growing and heading in a great direction, but please tell us, who are you TODAY?
You are who YOU are.
And, why will you fail in your current role? Because, as hard as it is for me to agree with pop-culture counselors, you must be you. Sure, go ahead and be your best you, but you MUST be you. If you don’t know who you are and if you can’t communicate it effectively to others, then how can you expect the people leading you to do better than what you offer them? A leader, boss or coach can’t be expected to employ someone into their best possible role if they don’t know really who they are dealing with.
Countless partnerships and business relationships have been doomed to failure for this one simple reason, “you aren’t being you”.
“But, they are who we thought they were, and we let them off the hook! - Dennis Green, Oct. 16, 2006
So, will you candidly, with a zeal for honest evaluation, tell the people who are counting on you what your best skills and attributes are? Then with the same measure of honesty (not more, not less) be sure to carefully and honestly describe the types of roles you should not lead up and outline areas where you would certainly be least effective. Don’t hide out in fear, hoping to survive. You and the people around you will enjoy life and work more when you are thriving in a leadership role that fits you best. Every job should have some margin for growth and new opportunities, but the entire role shouldn’t be one humongous fantasy bet on “best case” and your dreams at night.