If there could be a sign over every water cooler or for that matter every “lunch meeting” that says “Shut Up No One Cares”  I think we would get a lot more done.  Sounds rude even hurtful but if you give me a chance I think I’m making a more than valuable point.

Talking, what a gift women have!  According to many studies women on average speak three times more words a day than men and we all know those words, more often than not, are full of punch!  As a woman, I understand and often find myself joining the water cooler crowd for the latest.  It’s like this crazy magnetic force that screams at me that my opinion, my feelings, my thoughts are so important and valuable that everyone needs to hear them and not just once, but multiply times.  This God given gift of communication to the females is at its core a beautiful thing, but when used in excess turns ugly fast.

In the spirit of leadership in the work place choosing words carefully is one of the best things you can do.  Imagine a woman in the work place that speaks when necessary and gets to the point, and whenever she deviates it’s purposeful, clear, and possibly even witty!  This woman would stand out not just from the women but the men as well and become the leading lady in the office.  People respect and think highly of others that have a guard on their tongue.    We tend to subconsciously label people that speak well and with thoughtfulness as wise and deep, all wonderful leadership traits.  People will follow, respect, and even have a healthy fear of a leader that demonstrates these attributes on consistent biases.